My Own Opinion

I think there should be a book on etique as to what to say to someone when you hear they have cancer.   As many of you know, initially my health issues were kept to close family and friends and they respected that perimeter.  Then when I knew I would lose my hair - that changed and I knew it would.  I vowed to be open to people's well wishes and to talk if they asked questions.  However, people don't realize I have been living this life since May - over 4 months now.  When they hear the news they immediately call and ask how I am doing (they usually call Joe cuz most people know I am very private about my private life).  However, I do have some people contact me direct.  Recently received a private message that read:  "OMG - I am so sorry - I just received an e-mail telling me about your breast cancer diagnosis......."     First, please do not say you feel sorry for me......I can appreciate words of strength, that I am in your thoughts and prayers, that you know someone else that went through it, etc    The other thing that urked me right away is this is someone I don't really have any type of relationshp with.  I know her, but I haven't talked with her in a few years, never had a personal relationship of any nature, and the fact she received an e-mail from a family member my first questions is "why".   I was actually pissed and Joe knew it and tried to explain it away.  And then asked if I wanted to get away for a few days - Florida, Chicago, or wherever I wanted to go?    I can truly say last night was the first time he saw any aggitation or negative out of me - I was just pissed - I am the subject of lots of conversation and I absolutely hate it.  If no other person found out or no other person asked me how I was doing - I would be fine.  Obviously the feeling has followed me through the night and continues to be there inside me.   This too will pass.